Why Do Men Leave 'Good Women'? Find Out Here
Why Do Men Leave 'Good Women'? Find Out Here
He was SO into you … and then he wasn’t. Here
are the reasons he WON’T tell you:
We’ve all rented a room or two at the
“Heartbreak Hotel,” maybe even on more than
one occasion.
Sometimes, we say that we didn’t see the
breakup coming (even when it’s approaching like
a raging bull wearing a neon green shirt and
pressing a blow horn). Other times, they truly
do appear out of nowhere; everything was fine,
until suddenly … it wasn’t.
No matter how a breakup comes about, they
usually have something in common — three
secret reasons your ex is likely hiding — secrets
that keep him from fully expressing how he
feels.
You may think: No way … this isn’t the case. Not
my guy! Your man was sensitive, open, and
cried at the movies. But, all men struggle with
these issues, which confuse them and cause
them to bolt.
Understanding these issues can help you get
over a bad breakup … or, possibly help you get
your ex back. Here are the three secret reasons
men break up with really great women:
1. He felt pressured and inadequate
Were you constantly chasing him? Did you want
more love, affection than what he was doling
out? Did you feel like you were frequently trying
to “fix” things in the relationship?
If you can identify with any of these, there was
definitely an imbalance in your relationship, and
more than likely he felt pressured and
inadequate in your presence. And it’s important
that you know … that’s not at all your fault.
Most men run from emotional pressure like
they’re running for their lives (because, in their
minds, they are running for their lives).
Emotional pressure challenges the
underdeveloped part of a man’s masculinity and
makes him feel ill-equipped to deal. In his
mind, he feels like anything he does isn’t (and
never will be) good enough for you. This causes
men to naturally shut down and lock their
hearts up like Fort Knox, rather than deal with
any more feelings of pressure or inadequacy.
2. Your relationship felt competitive
If a man has to compete with a woman for
control of the relationship, he not only feels
inadequate, but also like there’s no place for his
masculinity in his woman’s life.
Keep this in mind: it’s very important.
This isn’t to say that a man should control the
entire relationship, that’s unfair to both parties.
Rather, a successful relationship has
complementary forces where each person
relinquishes control in certain areas. If this
doesn’t happen, both parties end up in
competition — both compete to win and, in the
end, the relationship loses. This dynamic shows
up in scenarios like these:
In a social context with friends! Did the two of
you get in arguments about who was “right” in
front of friends?
Financially, who is the breadwinner? Did you
make more money than him? And more
importantly, was it ever brought up in a way
that emasculated him?
Relationally, did you constantly make the
decisions in the relationship? Where to eat, what
fun things to do, or what movies to attend?
If he felt like you were against him instead of
for him, he never felt fully capable of opening
his heart because he was afraid of losing the
“game” and getting hurt.
3. He didn’t feel respected
A man can’t build a life with a woman who
doesn’t respect him. He has to feel that his
partner has his back above and beyond anyone
else — he must know that in his weakest
moment, she will shower him with acceptance.
Because, you see, here is the hidden truth
about your value: you are the key to his
greatness.
In order for him to unlock all that he has within
him, including his tenderness and willingness to
commit, he needs a deep and underlying
foundation of respect.
With a high caliber woman by his side he can
take greater risks in life and actually experience
more freedom than ever possible by himself.
So now that you know the reasons why he left,
how do you start to get him back? It’s time to
reflect and begin to take immediate action to
rectify the situation if you still truly love him.
Once you know how to breakthrough his
defenses and touch the deepest part of his
heart, he’ll feel an overwhelming calm and trust
that you truly (finally) get him.
He was SO into you … and then he wasn’t. Here
are the reasons he WON’T tell you:
We’ve all rented a room or two at the
“Heartbreak Hotel,” maybe even on more than
one occasion.
Sometimes, we say that we didn’t see the
breakup coming (even when it’s approaching like
a raging bull wearing a neon green shirt and
pressing a blow horn). Other times, they truly
do appear out of nowhere; everything was fine,
until suddenly … it wasn’t.
No matter how a breakup comes about, they
usually have something in common — three
secret reasons your ex is likely hiding — secrets
that keep him from fully expressing how he
feels.
You may think: No way … this isn’t the case. Not
my guy! Your man was sensitive, open, and
cried at the movies. But, all men struggle with
these issues, which confuse them and cause
them to bolt.
Understanding these issues can help you get
over a bad breakup … or, possibly help you get
your ex back. Here are the three secret reasons
men break up with really great women:
1. He felt pressured and inadequate
Were you constantly chasing him? Did you want
more love, affection than what he was doling
out? Did you feel like you were frequently trying
to “fix” things in the relationship?
If you can identify with any of these, there was
definitely an imbalance in your relationship, and
more than likely he felt pressured and
inadequate in your presence. And it’s important
that you know … that’s not at all your fault.
Most men run from emotional pressure like
they’re running for their lives (because, in their
minds, they are running for their lives).
Emotional pressure challenges the
underdeveloped part of a man’s masculinity and
makes him feel ill-equipped to deal. In his
mind, he feels like anything he does isn’t (and
never will be) good enough for you. This causes
men to naturally shut down and lock their
hearts up like Fort Knox, rather than deal with
any more feelings of pressure or inadequacy.
2. Your relationship felt competitive
If a man has to compete with a woman for
control of the relationship, he not only feels
inadequate, but also like there’s no place for his
masculinity in his woman’s life.
Keep this in mind: it’s very important.
This isn’t to say that a man should control the
entire relationship, that’s unfair to both parties.
Rather, a successful relationship has
complementary forces where each person
relinquishes control in certain areas. If this
doesn’t happen, both parties end up in
competition — both compete to win and, in the
end, the relationship loses. This dynamic shows
up in scenarios like these:
In a social context with friends! Did the two of
you get in arguments about who was “right” in
front of friends?
Financially, who is the breadwinner? Did you
make more money than him? And more
importantly, was it ever brought up in a way
that emasculated him?
Relationally, did you constantly make the
decisions in the relationship? Where to eat, what
fun things to do, or what movies to attend?
If he felt like you were against him instead of
for him, he never felt fully capable of opening
his heart because he was afraid of losing the
“game” and getting hurt.
3. He didn’t feel respected
A man can’t build a life with a woman who
doesn’t respect him. He has to feel that his
partner has his back above and beyond anyone
else — he must know that in his weakest
moment, she will shower him with acceptance.
Because, you see, here is the hidden truth
about your value: you are the key to his
greatness.
In order for him to unlock all that he has within
him, including his tenderness and willingness to
commit, he needs a deep and underlying
foundation of respect.
With a high caliber woman by his side he can
take greater risks in life and actually experience
more freedom than ever possible by himself.
So now that you know the reasons why he left,
how do you start to get him back? It’s time to
reflect and begin to take immediate action to
rectify the situation if you still truly love him.
Once you know how to breakthrough his
defenses and touch the deepest part of his
heart, he’ll feel an overwhelming calm and trust
that you truly (finally) get him.
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