5 Things you must NEVER discuss over the phone
 | In the beginning stage of dating, men and women often feel compelled to |
In such cases, much of that getting to know each other happens over the phone.
A new couple may spend hours on the phone at night, hitting every topic from favourite vacation spots to having kids.
As Dr. Seth Meyers, a relationship therapist puts it, "trust me on this: I have watched too many relationships crash and burn because the couple went from 0 to 60 in 5 seconds." In other words, they got so excited that they found each other that they forced the relationship too fast.
Topics You Should Never Discuss on the Phone
" Dating other people: Never ask over the phone whether the person you just started dating is dating other people, too. Asking this question is important, but you want to ask it in person.
An added bonus of asking the question in person is that you can watch his or her body language. If she says that she isn t dating anyone else but fidgets and squirms, you might need to ask the question again to get the real truth.
" Marriage and having kids: Don't jump the gun by discussing life s most precious issues over the phone. Wait a month or so into dating to discuss this kind of topic and then do it in person.
If you only knew how many men and women get turned off because someone broaches this topic too soon! Asking the question is fine when the time and space is right; asking over the phone is impulsive.
" Past relationships: If you're a codependent type, you want to know whom she s dated; why she dated them; what they looked like etc. All of this is &unhealthy. The most important thing you need to know about your date s past relationships is that those relationships are over.
And if you really must ask questions about your date s exes, do not do it over the phone. These issues are far too delicate to deal with this way.
" Insecurity about social media postings or photos: When you see your date post a photo with someone who s holding them a little too close on social media, it can trigger an insecure almost paranoid reaction. The urge most people have in this situation is to shoot out an impulsive text or call the person right away. Do not let your insecurity or other emotions get the best of you. The time to discuss the issue is in person. Say this when the two of you are together: I'm sure I have no reason to worry, but that photo you posted made me nervous. The person in that picture isn't anyone I need to worry about, is he?
" Fears about whether he or she is still interested in you: In a new relationship, there may be times when it is unclear if your date is still interested in you. If he doesn't call for a few days or she delays setting up the next plans to see you, it s perfectly normal to wonder if your date is still interested. Do not, however, discuss this issue over the phone. Sit with your anxious feelings instead of acting on them impulsively. When you do see each other next, wait an hour or two into the date and then ask yourself how he or she feels with you in that moment. Is she present? Is he acting like he s connected to you?
If you still need reassurance, say it this way: Because we re still getting to know each other, I wanted to check in about how you feel it s going with us so far. I know that I am into you; how are you feeling at this point about me?
Discussing super-sensitive topics over the phone rushes a relationship too much. The most successful relationships are born free of anxiety and pressure, so that two people feel relaxed and they can most easily be themselves.
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